Slut vs Stud

So its wednesday yet again. this means i sat through sociology. This means i have something profound to blog about. Todays musing.... THE DOUBLE STANDARD.

In todays climate sex is everywhere we look. Its on TV, and in ads, in fashion, even sports to a degree. Woman are blatanly drenched in expectations to express their sexuality, I mean look at music and swimsuits. It is becoming the norm to display blatant sexuality. To be SEXUAL. However. This is fine until a woman acts on the demonstration of her sexuality outside of a committed romantic relationship.

Then she is a slut. A whore. Trashy. Definetly not wife material.

However, place said man in same boat. Society does not expect him to clad himself in overly provacitive clothing. And when he demonstrates his sexuality outside of a committed relationship he is a stud. A pimp. A player. A ladies man.

WHY?

Is it because most of society is controlled by men? such as the media and the economy and the government?

Perhaps it is a statement on the acceptibility of the demonstration of male agression?

There is no denying that we have a vibrant service industry geared towards the sexual gratification of men. No city in america can claim to have NO PROSTITUTION. While this industry is still seen as immoral in the eyes of america, all too often in the critisim we are not belittling the men that utilize the services, but the women that provide the services.

If you look even deeper as we climb up the class system the sex workers change from hookers to call girls to escorts. The richer the patron the less hostile societys reaction to them becomes. Afterall. Men who use escorts are successful, they have "needs" but very little time to persue a romantic relationship, afterall they are the corner stones of our economy, our government, our country.

However. I am a woman who works hard, attends school, and presently is not "looking" for romantic attachements. Why am i not afforded the same understanding were i to seek having my "needs" met? Now i am in no way saying i am gonna become a customer of the sex industry. But i would like to know that i can find a no strings encounter with out being judged, with out knowing that if my activities weren't on the "down low" I would be labeled a Slut, despite the fact that i am a smart, attractive, ambitious woman.

just some food for thought.

*****disclaimer: i am not persuing a NSA encounter, just musing*******